Five Relationship Red Flags Five Dating Red Flags
Relationship advice for men and women Hi, my name is Elena Semenek and welcome to my channel – Psychology of Happiness, where happiness is the purpose of life! Today I will talk from a female perspective, but if your guy and you're watching my videos – welcome! No worries Relationship red flags and Dating red flags are identical for guys, so no worries – keep watching! Let's start Number one is look how he treats people of lower status: a waitress in the restaurant, people on the street, homeless people So at the beginning of the relationship, everyone wants to show his best qualities
But, how do you know should you invest in this guy is not? How can you learn about his negative qualities? By looking how he treats people of lower status He doesn't have to impress them So pay attention and if you don't like how he treats other people, then probably one day he will show same qualities towards you So this is the red flag! Number two is to pay attention to how he treats people of higher social status Why? Because you need to know if he's going to be successful in the future or not
If he respects other people achievement, if he values success, then he will surround himself with successful people and other people's success will motivate him to be successful So do you want to be with a successful guy? Of course, yes So look how he treats people who achieve great career in their life, or who build good business in their life Also very important, pay attention, if he values social status more than personal qualities If yes, then this is the 'Red Flag' because later you will have to prove him over and over again that you are 'good enough'
Your social status might go up, go down, you're gonna have different people around you, and some people can be more or less successful than you, so you will constantly have to prove him that you are 'good enough' Do you want to be happy or you want to live with the person and prove him everyday that you are 'good enough' Number three is to meet his five closest friends We're all product of five people that we hang out with the most If you absolutely don't like something about his friend, then this is a 'red flag' because people make best friends only when they have common interests, common goals, when they share common values in life
So if you don't like or can stand something in his friend behavior or quality, then this is the 'red flag' Unfortunately there is a huge chance, like 999% that he shares the same quality, but right now he's hiding it Number four is history of long-lasting relationship The general rule, if the guy is older than 25 and he never lived with any girl, he never been in a relationship that last more than a year, then this is a 'red flag' because he has a trust issue and he has a commitment issue in 99
9% of the time At sometime, he will decide that you are not good enough for him or he will put huge, super high expectation on you: what you 'have' to do in your relationship or what you 'should' do in the relationship, and you're going prove him over and over again that you are a great girl At the beginning of the relationship it my looks that he's an amazing person, he's sweet, he's caring, he is an amazing guy, but if he never had a long-lasting relationship, pay attention – this is the 'red flag' Number five is what he says about his ex If he's saying this, he's like a perfect boyfriend or perfect man and she was the bad one
She betrayed him, she lied to him, she disrespected him She was such and such and he was like the perfect man in the relationship, then this is the 'red flag'
There are always twol people in a relationship and there are no ideal people, there are no perfect people that are not perfect relationship, so it's okay, and it's normal when people have misunderstandings, when they have some conflicts, when they have to solve some problems in the relationship It's not post possible for one to be perfect and for the second one to be the cause of all the problems If he's blaming his ex in everything or his is saying that he had the bad luck, then pretty soon he's going to blame you in all his problems and he is going to blame you in all misunderstandings in the relationship He's gonna blame you that you lied to him, that you respected him and all those bad things that he said about his ex The person should take responsibility in the relationship
We all do mistakes and sometimes we are rude, sometimes we are angry, sometimes we disrespectful, sometimes will behave terrible So it's not possible for someone to be perfect all the time and for another person to be the bad one all the time So people should learn from their relationship And if the person is saying that, "Yes, you know, my ex, she had some good qualities, but she had those qualities that, unfortunately, I could not accept In this case, person is accepting that he did something wrong
It's not only about his ex He learned something from the relationship and he wants to build a better relationship = This is a good sign But if he's blaming her and saying that he the Mr Perfect, than this is a 'red flag' for you Let's summarize
Five relationship red flags / Five dating red flags Number one is to pay attention to how he treats people of lower status Number two, pay attention to how he treats people of higher status Number three, pay close attention to five of his best friend, five people that he hangs out with the most Number four is history of long-lasting relationship
And number five is what he's saying about his ex If you want to know how to tell if someone is lying, how to spot a liar, the link to another video will be below this one Make sure to watch it Click 'tumbs up' if you liked this video, share it with your friends on Twitter, Facebook, support my channel! Subscribe, click the bell icon to receive notification of new videos every week, and thank you for watching Psychology of Happiness, where happiness is the purpose of life!